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[Special Thanks!]

Karma is a bi---rdie 😬 Testing out IG reels and YouTube Shorts, but I probably will give up on this next week TBH. And no, I will not join TikTok.

Rallies must contain at least one outrageous deceptive shot πŸ™ƒ #badminton

Sometimes it's like my mind wanders when I'm playing and my body just kinda follows 😌 From the 2022 @c1_richmond Thanksgiving Tournament πŸ¦ƒ

Thank you Jackson and Annie for partnering with me for the 2022 Washington Open! πŸ™πŸΌ Some really challenging games and it's always fun to play with new partners and new opponents 😁 Special thanks to Adrienne and her team for running the tournament as best they could given the power outage, and of course thanks to Bellevue Badminton Club for helping with the tournament on Saturday. This is the kind of community support that's great to see when people put aside their differences and support one another πŸ’ͺ🏼 With that said, Bellevue Badminton is hosting an exhibition November 19th with Viktor Axelsen, which is good for all of badminton (FYI I'm no longer affiliated with Bellevue Badminton, but I'll promote it because it's a badminton event 😌). It was nice to see many people again and reconnect, even for a brief moment. I do appreciate the overwhelming support (you know who you are πŸ™πŸΌ) and I will continue to move forward despite the obvious obstacles I have to face. That's pretty much the secret to getting better at badminton. You have to risk losing for the chance to win. Sometimes people watch your game and hope you lose. They cheer obnoxiously for your opponents. They take pride every time you make a mistake. Or so it might be happening. I wouldn't know unless someone told me after (thank you Carmen 😬). Regardless it doesn't bother me because if doing that helps someone feel a little better about themselves, so be it 😌 As always, the best revenge is not to be like that. Time will tell. The drama will continue and find other people. I'm glad I'm out of it so I can focus on helping the right people. The bubble has burst. Onwards and upwards ✌🏼

Happy Halloween! Me: Tatsu from Gokushufudou (The Way of the Househusband) Carmen: uh... me 😬 PS. Her reel is pretty epic if you can find it 😎

Had a great weekend in Vancouver at the 2022 VRC Masters! Thank you to my partners, Mickey and Daisy, for playing and also to all of our competitors! 😁 Special thanks to my cheering squad for trying to embarrass me with their clappers (life lesson: you can't be embarrassed if you don't care πŸ˜›) but I appreciate the support and I hope everyone had a good time. I know sometimes matches got a bit close, but that was purely unintentional and I hope you will lower your expectations in the future πŸ˜… It was great to see family and connect people through sport, and I'm grateful to be part of a wonderful community. I know people have their differences and we also compete against each other, but ultimately, I hope it's healthy competition in more ways than one. On to the next one... πŸ’ͺ🏼 Some matches are now on YouTube. Thank you Carmen for filming 😘

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As I took another step towards the next decade and enjoying my 2nd non-badminton vacation by plane, I had some time to reflect on the 7 predictors of being "happy-well" in old age from a recent book. They include: 1) Don't smoke. 2) Don't drink. 3) Healthy body weight. 4) Exercise. 5) Adaptive coping style. 6) Education. 7) Stable, long-term relationships. The most important happens to be the last one, and I'm happy to have spent some time in Hawaii with Carmen on our belated honeymoon. It's been difficult to keep long-term relationships especially as an athlete, but there are always those who stuck around and saw you through the process. That ultimately has been the driving force in a lot of my actions, transitioning into coaching, but perhaps I have failed to adapt to the changes of today. However, if things have not changed for the better, then would it be so wrong to do things in the most effective way? Not all change has been good. I've been going strong on the first four habits, though I've been missing a lot of badminton, but in time, I'll get the chance to play more regularly to stay lean and strong year round (gotta keep the 6-pack when I turn 40 😬). Ongoing education has given me options with adaptive coping styles, which has given me opportunities to work on stable, long-term relationships. Treating others well usually does the trick, but I have learned first-hand that there are always exceptions, but that doesn't mean it's the rule. Hate begets hate, and that's no way to live. So why not turn the other cheek? It's okay. I'm fine. Now, THAT, is a position of power. PS. If you're getting Gokushufudou vibes, you would be correct 😌

Always grateful to get the chance to compete, once again with Mickey in MD, and with Thalia in XD πŸ™πŸΌ It hasn't been easy getting a chance to play these last couple of months, but playing again makes a great birthday gift 😬 (the soreness is still a price I'm paying, but it's all good) This has been the first time running a ClearOne tournament all the way through and I took it on for a few reasons. My dad used to run it back when it was just a Junior 'B' tournament, and it has certainly evolved over the years. I also want to learn the process of running a tournament via TournamentSoftware, and despite having new difficulties that arose (i.e. TS not recognizing the PayPal payments), I'm grateful for all the help that I got from people who shared their organizational tips with me. Most of all, I think this tournament is great for the badminton community and to have such a massive turnout of 500+ players, 700+ entries, and 900+ matches over 3 days, I'm grateful to be a part of it all. Even though we may not always see everything eye to eye, we can agree that we all love playing badminton 😌 For those that have gifted me the opportunities to compete for so many years, I'm only gifting things back. I remember playing against competitive adults as a junior, and here I am, now in the other role. The younger players are getting better, and I'm not. Of course it's frustrating, but it's part of the process. The next gen has to be better than yours, otherwise no progress has been made. I'm grateful to all those who have supported me and continue to support me. I'm only trying to do my best to give back to the badminton community. I don't always get it right, but I learn and get better. Looking forward to new opportunities in new places, but still contributing where the help is appreciated. Time is the greatest equalizer.

Whenever I coach a new program, I like to start with this lesson... https://towbsss.mli.st/p/my-first-coaching-lesson-7Jll6xJ Link in bio ✌🏼

Took better notes for badminton than I did for school πŸ˜… Wait, my grades did go up after my first Olympic journey, so maybe I learned to take better notes through badminton πŸ€” Maybe I'll publish my training notes with Kim Dong Moon one day 😌 If it's really important to you, I hope you took notes. If not, start today because it helps with thinking. Why do you think I'm such a technical coach if I didn't draw out and annotate each part of the technique?

Here's an old checklist I wrote for myself when I was training with the legendary Kim Dong Moon. I had recently read Atul Gawande's "The Checklist Manifesto" and used the idea to write down key things to remember. Although I had a coach scold me once, "No technical advice," in the match we were coaching, I disagree with them if it's a cue that has been used in training, because it would be more of a performance cue. Sometimes that foundational technical change makes all the difference, such as: - stay low - second shot - racket up - hit & step (& recover) - short swing However, a couple of pointers here: - Focus on the most important thing (not all 5!) - Know what you need to do (i.e. tactical objective) - If you know what to do but can't do it, consider a technical cue to help - If you focus on a technical cue, know what you're trying to do unless you're waiting for your opponent to make a mistake. That works surprisingly well sometimes. - Change things up. Sometimes this could be a rally or two before going back. Most importantly, don't use any of this advice if it's not working for you. It's your time to compete, so do what's best for you. Good luck to those competing at this weekend's tournament! I know many of you trained hard this summer and I wish you all the best! You can do it! Without me.

This was the first international tournament I went to outside of Canada. It also happens to be one of my favourite places to compete and I went every year for the next 11 years. The tournament got stronger over time, but there were some years I did fairly well, especially in 2012 where we lost to Japan in the semi-finals, 21-19 in the third game. But I would have none of these experiences if I gave up too early. This first tournament I played was extremely short. It says we only lasted 12 minutes and we didn't even get 12 points total. You may recognize our opponents, especially one of those names, and it was definitely an opportunity, albeit a short one. The other opportunity I took advantage of was watching the rest of the tournament. I had a chance to see some great players and matches, and that made a big difference because it helped me find direction in what I wanted to practice for next time. At some point, you will have seen it all and there may be more important things to do, especially if you're still in the tournament, but watching stronger players play should be captivating if you want to improve. There are many layers to the game, and you can unpack it to a level that best suits your needs, whether trying to analyzing someone's technique, to simply enjoying the game as a spectator. The game is different now in that it seems more aggressive and wild, making it more unpredictable. I don't know how I would do if I was playing in this generation, and I'm not going to speculate because it doesn't matter. All I know is that I still love the game and I hope those who have a chance to experience higher level competition continue as best they can. Like me 15 years ago, it's okay to feel discouraged, but it doesn't mean you need to give up. Take advantage of opportunities as they come, and see where they take you. Good luck on your journey.

[How To Decide] Every now and then, I ask myself: do you want to be a generalist or a specialist? What do you want to do? Or perhaps the question to answer is, "What do you want to be?" That's not an easy question but something to reflect on periodically. Well, if that's the case, it's an easy answer... https://towbsss.mli.st/p/how-to-decide-7Jl456O Link to blog in bio ✌🏼

πŸ”— in bio ... the problem with πŸ’Έ is that we don't sufficiently adapt our behaviors very well when we get a sudden change in income. And of course, I'm going to tie this into 🏸 in πŸ‡¨πŸ‡¦πŸ‡ΊπŸ‡². https://towbsss.mli.st/p/mo-money-mo-problems-nyNDmAd

Which is the best style to learn for badminton? Asian-style? Which country is the best? China? So if we did what the Chinese players do, would that guarantee us success? What about the other countries? Malaysia, Indonesia, Korea, Thailand, India? What about the Danish? The English also have produced some great players too. Wait, what about Spain? Or do we now have to get into the specifics and consider only women's singles? What is the best way? Link in bio.

Did you know I started badminton when I was 6 years old? I've been playing for 30 years. 3 decades. I guess I'm serving 30 to life then. Badminton has given me so much. It has also taken away almost everything. Does it really need to be a love-hate relationship? But does that even matter? 30 years ago, I got introduced to this sport. It was a family thing to do, up until we weren't really a family anymore. Badminton has taught me that you will change partners often, but as long as you keep looking, you'll probably find someone. 20 years ago, I started competing nationally. I got lucky and found a partner because I simply asked. I will always appreciate that opportunity, even though some may think otherwise. 10 years ago, I competed at the 2012 Olympics. It was an amazing experience and I can only be grateful to everyone who helped me get there. It was a life changing experience. Today, I was supposed to play in a tournament but everything fell apart. Still, I did my duty and helped organize it for other people. Still, I continue to support those where I can. Still, I love badminton and I miss playing. Still, given all that has happened, I have to lead by example: the best revenge is NOT to be like that; don't do to others what you DON'T want them to do to you. Hate begets hate, so we must consider love. And with love comes forgiveness. We cannot change the past, but with love and forgiveness, we can move on. I did an exercise this year and picked a word to live by: "example", short for "lead by example". This may be the hardest thing I have to do: practice love and forgiveness. We all make mistakes and I've made my share. Sometimes it takes time to learn from our mistakes. I was told that I cared too much. That was my mistake? Only time will tell. A mistake to choose love and forgiveness? Only time will tell. But forgiving doesn't mean forgetting. Sometimes the best thing to do is walk away and not look back. Love yourself too. Self-care is protecting yourself from repeating your mistakes. The importance of self-love is that you should only be willing to show love and forgiveness if they're sorry. If they aren't, what are you really forgiving then?

10 years ago... the mood is still the same. I'm clearly not happy about something, but the solution hasn't changed today. Stand up for yourself and fight that injustice. Stand up for yourself because you believe in yourself. Stand up for yourself because life is sometimes a competition and those you thought would support you may have other interests. Don't take that personally because they may be standing up for themselves too. 10 years ago, I decided that I would give it everything. We took the 2nd game from Japan, but I ran out of steam in the 3rd. But I know I did my best in that moment. Did I think we could win? Yes, but it was unlikely. It's still good to be realistic. 10 years later, today, I'm fighting a different injustice. But I will continue to stand up for myself. Because I've had the chance to experience trials, I can stand of firm ground. I have structure and support when I stand. It's hard to stand on lies, deceit, hacks, and when you don't put in the work. We all compete, but we cannot all win. But don't give up on yourself. Every time you get up from failure, you stand a little stronger. Over 10 years, it will make a difference. Let's see how much we can still stand 10 years from now, but remember, it starts today.

Sometimes it helps to look back into the past to remind yourself where you came from, especially when current times are tough. Sometimes it reminds you why you do the things you do, and why you value the things you value. And sometimes people may never understand you, and maybe they never will. But, that's okay. It's time to move on. Original photo caption: "It was absolutely GREAT to see Kim Dong Moon before we started competing, because he was by far the most influential person to me for this Olympics. I am what I am because I had the chance to learn from a legend... thank you for all you've done for us, from the bottom of my heart." Given my experience a decade ago, I've only wanted the best for others as a way of honoring what others have done for me in the past. Even today, it hasn't changed. The only thing that has changed is understanding that there are those who don't want my help. And that's okay, because that's a good lesson for all of us: You can help anyone, but you cannot help everyone. Choose your battles. With endings come new beginnings. New lessons are learned. Adjustments are made. But my values haven't changed, because I don't want to let down all the people that have made me a better person. And for that I am forever grateful. Oh yes, and Happy Birthday Mom πŸŽ‚ I was only trying to help people who reminded me of you. But things didn't go as planned. I'm sorry. Remember when I used to tell you "The road to Hell is paved with good intentions"? Yeah, I think now is a good time to stop and make sure I'm not going in the wrong direction. But still... ... life goes on.

Happy World Badminton Day! This sport has definitely changed my life for the better, and I'm thankful that I can still (pretend I can) play 😌 πŸ“·: @rex_orth πŸ™πŸΌ #worldbadmintonday #badminton

Happy Olympic Day! I've been so fortunate to have the opportunity to play badminton competitively and realize the Olympic dream. There have been so many wonderful opportunities that came from sport and I have met some incredible people along the way. Here are just some of the amazing people I've had the chance to compete with, and as I competed in mixed doubles in London almost 10 years ago, I decided to give a shoutout to some of my many mixed partners along my journey: Grace Gao, Alex Bruce, Rachel Honderich, Jenna Wong, Josephine Wu, Michelle Li, Kylie Cheng, Jacqueline Cheung, Hannah Chen, and last but certainly not least, my wife, Carmen Fong! I could only include 10 photos (IG limit) but wishing everyone the best and I hope we can all continue to share the love of this wonderful sport with others. Thank you everyone and I'm truly grateful for being a part of the badminton community πŸ™πŸΌ #MoveForPeace #OlympicDay #badminton @badmintoncanada

Let's try this again... Hey Rock, Hope you're doing well. I've been going through a lot lately, but that's okay. Remembering the lessons you've taught me will keep me grounded, and doing the right thing is often hard because the outcome is out of my control. But, that's okay. We just have to persevere because that's what doing the right thing means. We're in this for the long run. We're in this together. We've now scattered your ashes and you've return to Nature. Let's make it a better place. Together.